Everyday Challenge Day 2

I will talk about my 9 loves

1. writing
2. dancing
3. listening to music
4. golgappa
5. maggi
6. scooty
7. rain
8. chatting
9. ofcourse everyone who loves me :)

THE SECRETS

I am taking the 10 day challenge. So lets see how much of me comes out

Top 10 secrets that most of the people do not know

1 I started having crushes as young as 10., weird... i know but this is what it is!

2 I have deliberately got my sister a lot of scolding from mom, as a revenge when i was small, really i am not that mean anymore :P

3 I really feel that i suffer from some disease of forgetfulness believe it or not i can forget anything or everything for that matter however important that may be

4 My Janamkundali name is Hasibai which indeed is one of the biggest secrets that i have, it sounds like the name of the owner of a kotha

5 I always feel that people who come to your life and love you a lot will not be there forever

6 I do not believe in the concept of  'best friends' either you are friends or no

7 I am extremely possessive about the people i care, if someone says anything to them will get a slap on his face

8 I always show that i am very strong and stubborn but inside i am very soft and emotional, total dramebaaz i am :)

9 I am scared to drive a car in this dirty UP traffic

10 I love my family, my friends, my laptop, my scooty, my music everything but i will never admit it 

Little things

Little drops of water, little grains of sand;

Make the mighty ocean and the pleasant land

It was the middle of the night, and she stirred from her sleep; she quietly got out of bed, and did not make a peep. She sits in total darkness now and thinks about her man, the little things he does for her to lend a helping hand. 

He helps her all around the house and never makes a mess, he says it gives her extra time and her work will be less. She loves him for his thoughtfulness he does it on his own, he said he wants to make it sure that she never has to moan. 

He says it’s really easy and he says he’ll never fail, and he promised her that he would never ever leave a trail. He said his mother taught him not to clutter all his life, she also told him, “don’t you ever do it to your wife!” 

So she has benefited from a son who was well taught, but all those little things just magnify her love she thought. She loved him from then they met and loves him more each day, but all the little extra things sure help along the way. 

He respects her and loves her for what she is, accepting her with arms wide open. He treats her like a princess and his mother like a queen.

He makes no fuss when she is sick, instead cooks for her then. He looks after her like a mother, cares like a sister and scolds like a friend. He touches her so tenderly that she might break; now the sickness has no effect on her and she feels great.

She sits and thinks of other things that many overlook, like cleaning his own cup and hanging it on the hook. Or when he snacks on TV night with friends who have all come, when it’s over and they leave there’s not one single crumb. 

When she comes to him with tears in her eyes, he holds her strongly even when a part of him weeps silently. He goes to party with her and dance all night, and makes sure that he gets all his moves right.

When its play night with the kids it seems a storm took place, games and toys strung all around a pillow was a third base. But when she tucks the kids in bed when play night reached the end, she never makes it back before the place is clean again. 

She loves him so much for the way he shows his love to her, there’s no doubt how much he loves her, and she knows this for sure. And she can’t help but love his ways and her love grows in him, and he won’t change his little things its how he has always been. 

She loves his thoughtfulness to her and this is one of them, she thinks while sitting in the darkness half asleep again. It’s just a little something that to some may bring a frown, but the man, she so adores, kisses her on the forehead, puts the seat back down. 

MESSAGE RECIEVED

We enjoyed a lot last night. It was indeed a happy day in my life. I had just told everyone that I was expecting my first child and we were on cloud nine.

Next morning I went to the doctor for my checkup, it had already been 2 months now but the doctor found something unusual.She sent me for a few more tests when she told me not to worry but I did sense something. After two days when we got the reports we understood, it had been too early for a celebration.

The doctor finally told me that the baby was abnormal and we have to get rid of it. I yelled in disbelief, “Get rid of it!?” but we had no other option.

I cried, sat in the temple for hours and asked God to save me; waiting for a miracle to happen. My cousin dropped in and her honesty hit me. She said, “There is no way that I can understand your pain and nothing that I have to say will reduce your grief but this is all that I have to give you” and she handed me a book, Messages from the Masters by Brain Weiss, and I told her that I am not a reader and I don’t feel like reading.

She insisted a lot that I should start. The first few pages did not make any sense to me and in the meanwhile the doctor told me that we have to wait for a week before the abortion. So just crying, cursing and fighting with God I made another effort with the book (it was just a way of shooing off people who came to meet me)

The book spoke about people going into past lives and meeting their loved ones and resolving a lot of emotional issues, finding their soul mates in the present life and this induced some interest in me. Everyone in the family was telling me the same old thing, “Beta, everything happens for your own good” but I could not figure out any good in it. I did not know how to console myself, I still had 5 more days with my baby; my heart sank.

I read ahead and during this one particular episode the woman was taken back to the time of her birth, in the womb before she was born and I could easily relate to it being a mother now. It showed how a child can hear and feel everyone around even before being born which explained how children whose parents are more welcoming towards the new born baby become physically and emotionally stronger.

I read more experiences of people and it spoke of how we decide to live with our loved ones at the soul level itself. It stresses on the point and has sufficient proof that we do come back to our loved ones and in most cases people have recognized their family members and close friends in other life-times. I started to meditate as per the book and my faith in God became stronger. I had become more spiritual and I could feel the healing.

The thing that struck me the most was that the writer of the book had suffered a similar tragedy- he lost his 24-day old son, I know how it must have felt but during a regression he found out that it had happened for his own success later in his life.

The toughest day of my life was here but I did not cry even for a single moment. Because I know my baby is not going far from me. Instead it (I don’t know whether it’s a she or he) is waiting for the right time to come into our life. I needed to let it go because it is for the larger good for all of us.

I feel stronger emotionally and thank God for giving me such a wonderful experience for two months.

I sat in the car to come back home and my husband played the radio on which this song was playing- “So close no matter how far”- and I hugged him tightly.

Jab we met a Rockstar

“Mai to apni favorite hoon,” said each and every girl after listening to Geet on Jab we met. Each one of us, the fairer sex identify with her. This is the magic of Imtiaz Ali on the audience. With his first movie being Socha Na tha in 2005 was not a very big commercial hit but it made its mark. With actors like Abhay Deol and Ayesha Takia seemed to be the best choice. His next film Jab We Met was so fresh that it got him enough name and fame. Not only this, JWM gave a push to the sagging careers of both lovers at that time Shahid Kapoor and Kareena Kapoor. Kareena received the Filmfare award for the Best actress and she indeed deserved every bit of it. Then came the much awaited Love Aaj Kal starring Saif Ali Khan and Deepika Padukone with Rishi Kapoor, which again was not a commercial hit but did fairly well at the box office.

Looking at all his movies we can say that he is one of the best interpreters of human psychology, the way he portrays the confusion in during the process of deciding a life partner is worth an applause. All his movies talk about people with confused relationships and the climax is not very predictable. In Socha Na Tha and Jab We Met both Abhay Deol and Kareena Kapoor were already into a relationship when they meet the other character and the story shows how they persuade their family and then finally go against their original decision themselves. The reason for Love Aaj Kal not working despite the storyline was most probably because Meera (deepika’s character in the movie) decides to move out of her marital relationship the very next day for her old boyfriend. Most of the Indian audience was uncomfortable with this decision and people would not want their sons and daughters to follow.

The music of all Ali’s films are good- light hearted and chirpy because the story line is woven around 20 somethings but going by the sales records Jab We Met music has ruled over the other two. In JWM and LAK both he has put in a classical tadka with Ustad Rashid Khan (aaoge jab tum) and Rahat Fateh Ali Khan (aaj din chaddheya) resp.

The most striking thing with Ali’s movies are the names – 3 words and a mix of English and Hindi but his next flick which is due in 2011 is named Rockstar starring Ranbir Kapoor and a new girl Nargis. Let’s see how lucky this change proves for him and how confusing yet simple this love story is.

Letter to the LOVE-BIRDS

To : The love-birds,

Subject: to discuss all the harms of Public Display of Affection at public places.

Dear couples,

We are extremely embarrassed to see you all celebrate Valentines-day, when you sit close, make merry, show love we do not like it. In Indian tradition, Radha-Krishana are the example of eternal love who didn’t get married but we do not agree valentine’s day man; for the apparent reason that our country India is a land of sons and daughters but it is not in Indian tradition to celebrate mother’s day -See it’s a western concept.

Guys we do not like to see you cozily in the theatres because when we go to a movie like ‘Hiss’ we would have you also looking at Mallika Sherawat’s award winning performance in the movie and learn more tricks from her instead of wasting time and money in each other like this.

When you hold hands and walk in parks it reminds us of our younger days when we could not hang around because everyone knew us as we were already working for the party and you know stories about our dedication.

Parked cars in parking lots do not seem a viable option; dude- the back seat seems too small to comfort when you are turned on and you have guards peeping inside and disturbing you for mere 10-20 bucks.

We are supporting PETA therefore we do not like seeing you cuddly and mushy in the zoo, most of the visitors being school children and innocent animals ,won’t you like animals to learn love than 69!

Malls- outright No, we want shops in mall to sell so that we can get extortion money and we do not men to get excited and take their women back home as soon as they enter. Please consider the interests of mall owners and sad but true, there are CCTVs all over.

In India we consider Taj Mahal, a marvel in white marble with its minarets and domes clearly speaks of undying love of Shahjehan and Mumtaz you really do not have to teach the firang visitors how they did it…

School and college to gyaan ke mandir hain and we want our students to learn everything in the educational institutes itself so you do not need to hide in the corners of the corridors and help in educating the children because they are the future of our country.

We like creative and interesting people we would have you to try new places like

· Elevators – especially if you have to go higher than the second floor

· Hotel roof tops- no body will even think of it, not even us!

· Fire exits- do not wait for fire to break out, it never does

Yours sincerely,

Youth politicians

(The party people)

An Accident- happened or will happen?

I am a great believer of the Hindu mythology and the theory of karma, past lives and reincarnations. After reading a book by Brian Weiss and following what was mentioned in the book something very strange happened.

Now just to give a little background- I am dating a boy since quite some time now, and he loves me a lot there are no second thoughts about it. And to go a little more behind in time, I always had suicidal tendencies as a child; I never did anything concrete but I made plans innumerable times but here I am hale and hearty and writing. So I always had this fear of losing my loved ones or I used to feel I am going to leave them. I had imagined my parents not surviving a road accident and leaving me or anything at random happens to them and they leave me or in other cases I happen to die at a very early age.

I don’t know and I don’t remember that but as soon as my boyfriend came into my life my fears started to become from bad to worse. We met in school and I know since the day I was sure that I like him I was also sure about the fact that eventually we will not be together. He was very loving and initially I covered up by saying that we are too young to get into a commitment and blah. But with time I realized that I can’t hold back more I did like him a lot and I was insecure that he might end up with someone else so I gave it a try and we started dating. Just when everything was fine this fear encompassed my mind that - I will lose him. There was no base to prove it because everything was going very strong between us and we were going to be in the same school. I kept getting this intuition that he would not be alive very soon and will definitely leave me and of course that will happen in a road accident. One fine day he did have a very bad accident where he managed a narrow escape, I was so sure that it is going to happen that I started to behave weirdly with him not being able to explain what my problem was but he never gave up; he even yelled at me for thinking something so stupid but it was just not possible for me to get out of it. I still feel such things and as I am growing I started getting road accident phobic.

Now when I am reading books on past lives and reincarnations- I don’t know how but it has worked wonders in me. After getting to know the life experiences of so many people and these fears (which I can’t even call a fear because I never showed it in front of somebody) I am sure of what had happened and I feel very light, knowing that I have lost either my loved ones or myself in a road accident and it over. It won’t happen again.

But if you still ask me how would I want to die; I will always say – A Road Accident.

waqt

Ye waqt hi to hai jo na kisi ke liye rukta hai
Or na kisi ke liye jhukta hai
Hum bas khade reh jaate hain
Saal dar saal un taarikhon ko yaad karte hain, unka jashn manate hain
Ek waqt wo bhi tha jab waqt se tez daudte the hum
Ek waqt ye bhi hai jab usse kadam milate hain
Ek waqt wo bhi aayega jab waqt maano thahar saa jayega
Gujarta hua har pal kuch yaad dilaega

Valentines Day Ke Din

It was 14-2-2005 one year- four months after we had actually started dating. Half of the people we knew didn’t even know what was going between us. Since I am a girl I don’t want to be very vocal about my feelings in front of everyone and neither do I want to hide it from him. Owing to all this I decided to give him a surprise.
Before that just a little background about my life- I was 16 then and studying in 11th standard and we were in the same class.
Now back to my surprise, after a lot of brainstorming with myself I got an idea to buy him a feing- shui kind bracelet in steel (I am talking 2005, steel was very much in that time) got it gift wrapped nicely and slipped it in his bag.
After some time I kept waiting for him but no response… waited and waited and finally he did what I least expected him to. Went and gave to the teacher telling somebody must have left it with him by mistake and obviously he did not know who ‘the somebody’ was. The bracelet received all sorts of appreciation and criticism from my classmates no one having the slightest idea about the girl.
By this time there was enough trouble in my nervous system and I was sweating like a pig. Finally, the teacher after a lot of enquiry gave it to one of the students. While she was happily taking it home I went to her and told her that It was me after everyone else had left the class.
Till this day after 6 yrs we remember and cherish that Valentine’s Day when I tried to give him a real surprise but I am very happy that even when he did not know who the girl was he just did not keep the gift with himself. I did not like the whole incident but today when I look back I know I really have got a very loyal and a gem of a person boyfriend